The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our jobs, relationships and interactions with others. Many people believe holding on and hanging in there, infinitely, are signs of incredible strength. But there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go, and then to actually do it.
Over the years it has come to stay in my heart that most employers out there are only interested in socking the best out of you while, they never border if you sleep, eat or have a good life for yourself. To me this kind of employers are called killer of destiny and the sooner you are out of such environment the better for you.
You will never achieve what you are capable of if you are too attached to the things you’re supposed to let go of. Sometimes this killer of destiny might be your direct boss and not really the company as a whole.
When to let go
1)Your Boss actions don’t match his/her words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go. It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time. Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do. Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.
“Whenever I've been stuck with a Boss or a company, it's always brought me solace to the return to back to who I really am. It's a nice way to get outside my own head; and it brings me back to one of the most important reasons I write at all: to bring some pleasure to readers, to make them think or feel that most bosses out there are not willing to add value to the employee rather they take advantages of the innocent heart of the employee.” - Oluwabamidele
2)You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate. Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk you out of going after yours. The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart. Take risks. Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen. If you do, nothing will ever happen. Chances must be taken, mistakes must be made, and lessons must be learned. It might be an uphill climb, but when you reach that mountaintop it will be worth every ounce of blood, sweat and tears you put into it.
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don't.”- Steve Maraboli
3)Your boss expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else. It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where you used to be. You will never achieve what you are capable of if you’re too attached to things you’re supposed to let go of.
4)You go all out to sacrifice your happiness and time. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it. Know when to close the account. It’s always better to be alone with dignity than working in a company that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect. “There's a trick to the Graceful Exit. It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, a relationship is over - and to let go. It means leaving what's over without denying its value.” - Ellen Goodman
Lastly, People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to, and the one thing you should never let go of is hope. Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward. Hope for the best, but expect less, Someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn't turn out exactly the way you had anticipated. And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things. Even if a situation or relationship doesn't work out at all, it’s still worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it taught you something new.
Over the years it has come to stay in my heart that most employers out there are only interested in socking the best out of you while, they never border if you sleep, eat or have a good life for yourself. To me this kind of employers are called killer of destiny and the sooner you are out of such environment the better for you.
You will never achieve what you are capable of if you are too attached to the things you’re supposed to let go of. Sometimes this killer of destiny might be your direct boss and not really the company as a whole.
When to let go
1)Your Boss actions don’t match his/her words. – Everybody deserves somebody who helps them look forward to tomorrow. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, it’s time to let them go. It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company. True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time. Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do. Your true friends will slowly reveal themselves over time.
“Whenever I've been stuck with a Boss or a company, it's always brought me solace to the return to back to who I really am. It's a nice way to get outside my own head; and it brings me back to one of the most important reasons I write at all: to bring some pleasure to readers, to make them think or feel that most bosses out there are not willing to add value to the employee rather they take advantages of the innocent heart of the employee.” - Oluwabamidele
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don't.”- Steve Maraboli
3)Your boss expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else. It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s easier to mend a broken heart, than it is to piece together a shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where you used to be. You will never achieve what you are capable of if you’re too attached to things you’re supposed to let go of.
4)You go all out to sacrifice your happiness and time. – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it. Know when to close the account. It’s always better to be alone with dignity than working in a company that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect. “There's a trick to the Graceful Exit. It begins with the vision to recognize when a job, a life stage, a relationship is over - and to let go. It means leaving what's over without denying its value.” - Ellen Goodman
Lastly, People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to, and the one thing you should never let go of is hope. Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward. Hope for the best, but expect less, Someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good things will transpire in your life, even if everything doesn't turn out exactly the way you had anticipated. And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things. Even if a situation or relationship doesn't work out at all, it’s still worth it if it made you feel something new, and if it taught you something new.
